In sports the most successful athletes have coaches and mentors. Coaches know how and when to motivate, train, inspire and bring out the best in others. Mentors have been there and done that. While both are important, let’s focus our attention on mentors because they are widely available and most often free of charge and anxious to be of service.…
Tag: Relationship
Tying The Knot During Vacation
Being in love and on vacation can be over stimulating even to those who are most sensible. When your body and mind gets a chance to relax, you might feel the urge to do something crazy, like getting married. Whether you’ve known your partner for a few weeks or a few years, when you get married during vacation, you’re still…
5 Relationship Killers And How To Avoid Them
As a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the 37 years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories…
Commitment Phobia Are You Commitment Phobic
Marilee, a client of mine, was commitment phobic. “I’d love to be in a loving relationship,” she told me in one of our counseling sessions, “but I’m not willing to give up my freedom. I have a great life. I love my work and my friends. I love to travel and take workshops and classes. I don’t want anyone telling…
How To Succeed In Love And Relationship
So many men approach me saying something like “I am interested!” But the look on their face shows otherwise… They do not get clear about what they want or do not. Its important to know what you really can not tolerate in a partner. You should Make a list of your “don’t wants” and then cut it down to the…
Is Online Dating Safe For Women
Online dating has grown in popularity over the years as the internet becomes a way of life for many. With online dating becoming more mainstream and accepted, some women are still doubtful whether it is a safe way to make friends. Some of the questions that pop up in women’s minds include, ‘How do I know if he is not…
Leading The Self Directed Life Passion
I have long felt that if we could enter work the way we enter our first relationship, we could blow the US economy sky-high! The passion of that first relationship, the feeling of it being all consuming and all absorbing, if channeled into work throughout our world, would cause such an economic surge that there would be no stopping our…
Borrow Money From Friends But Pay Special Attention To The Promissory Note
Borrow money from friends and relatives only after careful consideration. Having a fantastic money-making idea but bad credit may point you in the direction of family and friends. Financial risk will always be part and parcel of any loan. Borrowing money from family and friends highlights a double whammy though. Risk and emotional challenges. A well rounded, thoroughly researched business…
Two Keys To Surviving A Breakup Resources And Support
Relationships are easy to enter, hard to maintain, and painful to leave. The first blush of interest and attraction fuels the passion that ultimately leads to commitment. In the midst of a relationship, all sorts of things can go wrong, from the failure to communicate or taking the other person for granted, to infidelity or abuse. The breakup is heart…
Is Love Really Blind
“Is love really blind?” I wonder. Having been happily married (and some of the times not so happily) for 30 years, I cannot help but ask myself more frequently whether my love is blind. Unsurprisingly to myself, the answer seems to be affirmative. How else would I have been able to go through the various difficult times in our relationship?…