Abusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the “silent treatment”), manipulate, and control. There are many ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to respect privacy, to be brutally honest, with a sadistic sense of humour, or consistently…
Category: Relationships
Relationships Why Do You Have A Partner
From what one reads in forums on relationships, it seems that most of the relationships manage to give more pain than joy after some time. The rise in divorce rates is an indicator to this. Why have relationship if that will give more pain than pleasure to both the partners? Do not you also ask this question? It is becoming…
Ecards Can Enhance Your Relationships
We are all looking for ways to keep our relationships strong. We also look for ways to improve the quality of the relationship. The problem is our busy schedule, our priorities and our daily stresses. How to devote minimum time and enhance relationship? Ecards can do that. Let me show you how? What are the normal communications you use with…
5 Relationship Killers And How To Avoid Them
As a relationship counselor, I am constantly being asked why so many relationships fail. In the 37 years that I have worked with couples, I have discovered five major relationship killers: CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR Most people enter a relationship with a deep fear of rejection, and this fear motivates various forms of controlling behavior. Controlling behavior falls into two major categories…
Engagement Rings Finding The Perfect Ring
Need help finding a perfect engagement ring? These style-savvy tips will help you find the perfect engagement ring and perhaps give you the inspiration you seek in finding a diamond engagement ring that fully expresses your feelings. No other jewellery item says ‘love’ more powerfully than a diamond engagement ring. Rare, precious, and indestructible, these qualities earned the diamond its…
Quick Tips For Your Wedding Invite Wording
Wedding invitations are one of the most important aspects in arranging a wedding. Not only in a design sense, but also from a content perspective. You and your soon to be husband or wife need to decide what wording will go in your wedding invites. Many newlyweds often decide to use poetry or meaningful excerpts in their invitations. Some take…
Commitment Phobia Are You Commitment Phobic
Marilee, a client of mine, was commitment phobic. “I’d love to be in a loving relationship,” she told me in one of our counseling sessions, “but I’m not willing to give up my freedom. I have a great life. I love my work and my friends. I love to travel and take workshops and classes. I don’t want anyone telling…
Why Couples Running Away Together
Elopement normally happens to troublesome teen couples. It includes not only the traditional form of eloping, where you head down to the local justice of the peace, but now, many couples are tying their knots in many exciting, out-of-the-ordinary ways. Most couples will have a day dream and start with exciting plans of a romantic, enjoyable traditional wedding. They dream…
Overcoming Fears Of Intimacy
Sam, age 42, had never been married. It’s not that Sam had never fallen in love. But every time a relationship had started to move toward commitment, Sam ran. When Sam’s loneliness became overwhelming to him, he called me for help. “I want to be in a relationship, yet every time I get close to someone, I run away. I’m…
Want To Improve Your Relationship With Your Wife
Recently, my wife, 7 year old daughter and I decided that since it was such a beautiful, cool, and slightly breezy evening that we would take a blanket outside, spread it out on the lawn with some refreshments, and enjoy the evening reading books. I grabbed a book that I had wanted to finish for a while, strapped on my…