Well, here we are in February and many people are celebrating St. Valentines. It is a good time to think about love and relationships to put a bit of warmth in our lives after a long winter. Today, I would like to look at what love is. The English language only has one word for love and it is used…
Category: Relationships
Is This Love Or Emotional Dependency
One of my clients, whose ex-girlfriend recently broke up with him, asked me the following question: “I think I still love her, but is this love or just emotional dependency? Many times I ask myself if falling in love comes from the wounded self because (for me at least) it feels as if I can’t live without the other person.…
The Good Enough Family
The families of the not too distant past were orientated along four axes. These axes were not mutually exclusive. Some overlapped, all of them enhanced each other. People got married for various reasons: 1. Because of social pressure and social norms (the Social Dyad) 2. To form a more efficient or synergetic economic unit (the Economic Dyad) 3. In pursuit…
To End Or Not To End Your Relationship
Vanessa, 30 years old, is struggling with whether or not to end her six-year marriage. The answer is not at all clear to her. Vanessa and Jon have a “good” marriage. They are kind and caring with each other. They enjoy many of the same things. So why is Vanessa in such turmoil over whether to stay or leave? The…
The Malignant Optimism Of The Abused
I often come across sad examples of the powers of self-delusion that the narcissist provokes in his victims. It is what I call “malignant optimism”. People refuse to believe that some questions are unsolvable, some diseases incurable, some disasters inevitable. They see a sign of hope in every fluctuation. They read meaning and patterns into every random occurrence, utterance, or…
Is He Just A Friend Or He Loves You
This is a common situation. You know many men. Some of them are friends. Out of them one wants to be more than a friend with you. But he does not know how to tell you that? Are there any signs that will tell you that he is interested in you? Let us try to find out. Friends always talk…
10 Perfect Places To Meet Women
In our days, in this big world, there are a lot of single people who spend their life alone. There are a lot of wonderful ladies out there just waiting to meet the man of their dreams, hoping that someday this will appear. Also, many single men would like to meet their special one, but the only problem is that…
Signs Of A Troubled Relationship
Anyone who’s been in a long term relationship will tell you there are rough periods, and most people, when they’re honest, will admit to doubts along the way. But sometimes we don’t know how to assess, “Just how bad is it?” Here’s a list of symptoms that suggest a relationship is in trouble. The more symptoms you think are true…
5 Irresistible Ways To Make Women Fall For You
“I don’t get it!…” “I’ve a nice car. I’m accomplished. My A-List CV make the next guy look funky. I even wear the latest Armani! Why doesn’t she flip for me? Why am I always alone??” STOP! How many times did you pound the dashboard of your Corvette bewailing this persistent question? The avenue to Romance is littered with roadkill…
Christian Roommates Finding The Right One
When you first began looking for solid Christian roommates to live with, it seemed that you would never find anyone. You may have felt like the only Christian in your new neighborhood. But eventually you will discover a new problem. You will have to chose from a handful of potential roommates. If you’ve just started looking, it may seem like…