There is nothing as stressful and intimidating as
having to meet the parents of your girlfriend for
the first time. But, if you know how to handle
this, you will see that can be a real interesting
experience.
It comes a day in your life when you figure out
that your relationship with your girlfriend is
getting serious and she has to take you to meet
her parents and family. This is a big step in
your relationship and it is very important to
make a good impression from the beginning, if you
want that they agree to meet their girl anymore.
There are several occasions in which you can meet
her parents, such as a holiday or birthday,
picking her up for a date, or just a dinner in
family prepared special for the meeting. No
matter in which circumstances you meet, for
impressing her parents you must be prepared.
First of all, dress to impress. You must be
presentable at your meeting, that’s why the best
to wear is probably a suit. Your performance will
be judged by the first impression you make in
their eyes.
Before the big meeting make sure to find out from
your girlfriend all the details about her family,
so you will know what to talk with them. Ask
where her parents work, about their personality
if they are very serious or they have sense of
humor, and if they like funny people or much
reserved, to know how to act with them. It is
important to know some details, to not refer to
her grandparents if you don’t know if they are
still alive.
Also asking questions about her family will show
her that you really care, that you are interested,
and ready to do all the sacrifices that are
necessary to make their parents like you.
Remember that in the first meeting you must make
sure that they observe your good manners, to
prove her parents that you deserve to be with
their daughter.
If the meeting takes place at their home, don’t
forget to bring a gift, such as flowers, a box of
chocolate or a bottle of wine to show that you
are polite. Be confident, give her father a firm
handshake, and as a sign of respect call him Sir.
You have to make a good conversation, but also be
prepared for many questions towards your family.
Don’t panic, relax and look in them eyes and
answer as nicely as you can. Be prepared to
answer at the question about what do you want to
do in the future. Speak about your job, family,
sports, but don’t bring any discussion about
money, politics or personal questions. Asking
questions about their family will show your
interest about them, as far as your aim is to get
along with both partners, to get on their good
sides.
Keep a smiled face to show you are friendly; be
personable, polite and respectful. Flatters her
mother’s look or clothing and compliment her
cooking by finishing your plate. You may offer
your help to clean up the dishes; this will
certainly impress her mother.
Be yourself, to see from the beginning how you
are, and don’t show too much affection towards
your girlfriend in their presence, one kiss is
enough, to not think her parents that you are
over reacting.
Before you leave tell her parents that it was a
pleasure meeting them and they have a very
special daughter.
You will see that it will be harder with her
father which wouldn’t accept easy that now it is
another man in his daughter life except him, but
if you conquered her mother you will see that she
will be the one which will invite you for dinner
and will defend you in front of her husband if
she really likes you.
So, meeting her parents can’t be so bad, and if
you really success with this meeting it will base
a great friendship between you, which will have a
big positive effect on your relationship.
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