Shyness is a very important issue, that
nervousness that overcomes in certain social
situations. It can be definite like having
difficulty in creating a friendship or even
starting a conversation with the one we meet.
Shyness can start in someone’s personality from
early childhood. A shy people may be viewed as
overly serious, even humorless because for him it
can be difficult to do something as a smile, or
even say ‘ hello’ to somebody. He does not know
how to start a conversation or how to handle in
certain situations, so they tend to hide.
Shy people date less; they are more focused on
themselves than others when in conversation. They
have irrational beliefs about what other people
think about them. They are considered less
friendly, not interested, and even boring.
Therefore, loneliness can come from shyness.
The problem with shyness is that we built
negative beliefs about ourselves based on lack of
skills. Shyness has several components that
interact and affect the mind, body and behavior
of a shy person.
If you are a shy person, you are probably
somewhere between uncomfortable and paralyzed at
the thought of meeting new people to the point
where it interferes with your goal of dating and
ultimately having an intimate relationship.
People who fear meeting another people, asking
for dates, or divulging personal information are
at a significant disadvantage in the dating game.
Many women are looking for shy men, but since you
are too timid, you may get alone. Therefore, if
you are a shy person you have to overcome your
shyness if you want to attract the one you like.
First, recognize that you have a problem, and
talk with someone about this. Constructive
counseling can help. Have self-confidence; do not
be afraid to start to talk with everyone you meet,
you will see that you have so many things to
share.
Get out and socialize, join activities in which
you are always interacting with people, like
disco, clubs, parties, gym or even colleges.
Your shyness is triggered by the inability to
approach someone that you consider attractive.
This occur when you think about your flaws, you
have the fear of rejection. You approach her by
engaging her in conversation.
Start with a smile, show her that you are
friendly and approachable, and start a small talk.
If she make you feel intimidate, and even if you
make a small mistake do not lose yourself. Do not
worry; she will forgive you faster than you think.
Do not take things personally if she make any
joke, comment or insinuation at your address, she
does not make it to upset you. Laugh with her and
show her that you are a good listener and you
like spending time with her.
After you will get over your shyness, you will
see that your life will change totally.
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